Sexual Assault Prevention Tips that Really Work!

Photo © Steve Rhodes

Photo © Steve Rhodes

Tired of the same old tips about wearing longer skirts and always keeping an eye on your drink? Wish there was something that actually worked? Wonder no more! Here are two lists of fool-proof ways sexual assault can be prevented.

  1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
  2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
  3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
  4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
  5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
  6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
  7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
  8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
  9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
  10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
  11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

(source – update 5/30/12: 404 error)

But wait, there’s more!

If a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don’t rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.
If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
If your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.
Don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl.
Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

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If you’ve been a victim of sexual assault, there are resources available to you. Please don’t be ashamed, and seek help immediately.

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16 Comments


  1. Perfect, I always thought that when people are telling victims to be more careful, that is ultimate fail. If we ourselves change our behavior just of the fear of being a victim for some crime, then we are losing the war.

  2. FTW! These are the best rape prevention advice I've ever seen.

  3. See… rape can be funny!
    :?

  4. As a person who doesn't rape, this doesn't help me stop rape at all. However, lists that you all are bashing actually seem helpful.

  5. When the world contains only good , decent people , no mentally ill people , no survivors of abuse, no gangs, no entitlement syndrome, no lies and no hate, these will be great tips.
    If you think for a single moment that a potential rapist will read these and be deterred, you are clearly not living in reality – and no matter how much you hate the world we live in, preaching to the choir won't change a THING.
    But giving real women real advice on how to avoid being assaulted by real criminals can and does help .

  6. Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
    Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.

    Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.
    ——————————
    Those first two don’t seem to really jibe with the last one.

    I don’t want to place any blame on someone who gets assaulted, but if someone is out jogging in Central park at 5am all alone, you can’t act too surprised something happened. I think you have to accept that because assholes do bad things, you have to accept some responsibility for putting yourself into a situation where an asshole can hurt you (although it’s true that sometimes there is absolutely nothing you could have done or not done to change the situation).
    .-= RhesusPieces’s last blog ..Mr. Deity =-.

  7. Hi RP

    The first statement is for men who blame women for being raped.
    The second statement is for men who take no responsibility for raping women.

    Your reply entirely buys into ‘She was asking for it.

    • Clare… the first statement is for “people” who blame women for being raped. In my experience, and I suspect yours, women can be just as vicious proponents of the belief that if a women is raped it is somehow partly her fault.

      RP… *no-one* is suggesting people should not, or should not be encouraged to, take measures to protect themselves. These lists are semi-humourously about attitude change. If I park my car in a slightly dodgy neighbourhood, it may not be considered the smartest move but very very few people would regard me as somehow complicit in the theft of my car. So why do we live in a world where, when a woman is raped, a violent and violating experience of the highest degree, the first response endorsed by society is “oh well she should have X, Y or Z”?

      • “very very few people would regard me as somehow complicit in the theft of my car. So why do we live in a world where, when a woman is raped, a violent and violating experience of the highest degree, the first response endorsed by society is “oh well she should have X, Y or Z”?”

        YES. Thank you.

  8. As a male who has never raped anyone, I can add the following tip out there for other males who like females:

    If you want a woman to feel safe and comfortable being sensual, dressing in an attractive manner and being intimate with you. Don’t rape her.

    Personal experience has taught me that women think that guys that do that a ‘kinda jerky’ and it’s a real turn off.

    Maybe I should add that to the Song of Solomon.. “And she were fine linens and danced; for he raped her not. And they took delight one with the other.”

  9. Brilliant. I love how people are taking this as something that’s supposed to prevent rape, because it’s not- but it’s reading things like this that make victims smile when not the entire general public says that she shouldn’t of gone walking alone at night, etc. Puts the blame where it belongs.

  10. This is brilliant, and I will be sharing it from now on. We need to change the cultural perspective that women somehow attract rape, when the truth is that RAPE IS A CHOICE.

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