Comments on: When Sex is “Gross”

By: Bettejo Dux

Bettejo Dux — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:51:37 +0000

The answer is simple: control someone’s sex life and you’ve really got him or her by the ‘short hairs’. Please pardon the expression. It’s interesting, and very revealing, that it’s the women who catch the brunt of this and not the men. Well, god is a he, is he not? A patriarchal god and Eve ate that apple. What is iust too too really really annoying is that the religious right female loons…Palin and her pals…have ‘stolen’ Susan B. Anthony. Is there no end to the depth to which they will not stoop? Peace and love Bettejo

By: Givesgoodemail

Givesgoodemail — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:24:33 +0000

Bet she’s fun on a date. Not.

BTW, #11:
“religion really isn’t the major factor of influence”
Wrong. If religion reflects culture, riddle me this: why is the Christian ban on pre- or extra-marital sex universally extant among all Christian groups in all corners of the world?

By: GG

GG — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:20:44 +0000

Do you see an explanation for why people in the same cultures can view sexuality in drastically opposing ways–with the teachings of their belief system being the major difference between them?

By: CrazyCrazyXtian

CrazyCrazyXtian — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 19:41:30 +0000

My question to you is this: Where do you claim this prudity (I just made that word up but love it!) stems from? I argue that the issue is cultural, rather than based in religion. We can merely examine global norms on sexuality and see that religion really isn’t the major factor of influence. Rather, those cultural values are expressed in one’s religion.

By: GG

GG — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 19:40:17 +0000

Yes, astute point. Many people don’t let their kids watch much violence, but they themselves don’t mind blood and gore for a good time. Isn’t it interesting how one has become so hated over the other?

Then again, sex is a personal, intimate, “sacred” act kept private. Violence, while also personal, does not involve our vulnerability and sense of self in the same way. We can watch a war movie without feeling like we’ve stumbled into someone’s secret diary, but if we see a love scene between a newly married couple, we feel like voyeurs to something that should not be publicized or shared.

By: Steph

Steph — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 07:03:59 +0000

What I’ve always wondered about is that people can be so prudish about sex and then turn around and watch ultra-violent shows- a true defilement of the human body and even have their kids watch them.
But if they see Janet Jackson’s oopsie on tv, all hell breaks loose.
Steph’s last blog ..Mental Disorders and Religion

By: GG

GG — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:25:54 +0000

My reoccurring issues have to do mostly with poor self esteem and a history of dating selfish users. I’m still dealing with them, but having the right partner is a huge help!
GG’s last blog ..When Sex is “Gross”

By: Pony

Pony — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:10:25 +0000

Sex is only gross if you’re doing it properly.

By: Camels With Hammers

Camels With Hammers — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:35:54 +0000

Bailey: I’m actually engaged in a discussion regarding innocence/sex with a Christian at the moment (although the guy defends Biblical incest solely because it’s in the Bible, so he’s really not much of a debater), and I think it’s a really interesting topic. When I was a Christian, sexuality was presented a dirty, shameful thing and I could never wrap my head around why, but I still felt guilty for even thinking about sex. Once I began to branch off from my faith and actually look at the ramifications of belief, I realized that what I was told about sex was all a bunch of BS. Telling people sex is bad is simply another way to control believers through their fear and their guilt, and that to me is more disgusting than anything. Physicality, sexuality, intimacy, love, affection, canoodling, whatever -it is important, all of it, for a full and healthy life. Awareness of your body and what brings you pleasure is a good thing, and I have a deep resentment towards religion for poisoning that pleasure for so many people.

Everything she said.

By: Camels With Hammers

Camels With Hammers — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:34:14 +0000

Repulsion towards sex is not an innocent response from anyone but a pre-teen. A religiously cultivated generalized antipathy towards such a fundamental feature of human life is not innocence, it’s corruption, it’s an eye which sees evil where there is none.