Comments on: When Sex is “Gross”

By: Apathetic-Bob

Apathetic-Bob — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 18:19:56 +0000

I was raised in a secular houseshold, so thankfully no religious scars here. However, I for one think there is too much sex in movies. It is usually at those parts that I’ll go make popcorn or whatever. It seems that screenplay writers feel so obliged to insert some sex scene that it often seems forced or out of context, ruining an otherwise entertaining flick. I just don’t get it. I’ve gone my entire life without sex. I realize that puts me in the minority, but really, is everyone so totally sex-obsessed that they can’t sit entertained for just the 90 friggin’ minutes of a movie without a gratuitous dose of soft-porn? Think about that.

By: Bmccook

Bmccook — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 10:19:47 +0000

You are one awesome chick! We should be best friends. Lol.

By: Colie the Magical Closet Athiest

Colie the Magical Closet Athiest — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 23:10:17 +0000

Healthy when done safely, I should add. Unwanted babies and STD’s aren’t so healthy :p

By: Colie the Magical Closet Athiest

Colie the Magical Closet Athiest — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 23:07:16 +0000

Back when I was 9 up to the time I turned 13- being raised as a ‘good christian girl,’ mind you- I was scared whenever I thought about sex and felt a deep sense of shame if I ever masturbated. I was so afraid that god would send me to hell for these thoughts. I cried quite a bit, and had low self esteem and confidence. And oh, how I cringed during sex scenes at the movies! When I started really doubting my Christianity last year (when I was 14) all of these things changed. I didn’t see myself as a sinner anymore- I felt pretty free and confident! It was great! Sex still kind of was a bad and dirty thing in my eyes, after being told this for years, and I wasn’t quite the free-thinking atheist girl I am today. This year, however, that changed. I found that sex can be a beautiful thing when love is involved. It’s not bad or wrong- it’s healthy! I hope the woman you were talking about finds that out, too.

By: Eclectic

Eclectic — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 20:17:09 +0000

I do find it terrible that murder is shown hourly on TV shows and movies rack up body counts worthy of minor battles in WWII. This is a rare act that I have never done, don’t want to do, and (if you want to use a religious justification) is explicitly forbidden by the Ethical Decalogue.

Sex, on the other hand, is a common act and expression of affection that I do several times a week. (Or a day, on weekends, lucky me.) And biblical restrictions are about the manner serve more to indicate that it is expected than forbidden.

So why does it seem to happen so much less often?

I could understand if christians protested porn on the grounds that it was both adultery and not simulated, but if unreality is a defense for movie murder, it should be equally valid for movie sex.

I understand that there are other even more common things that are rarely shown (as they say, where are the bathrooms on the Enterprise), but bathrooms do get mentioned and shown without horror whenever relevant. (Or funny. Anyone remember Danny Glover sitting pantsless on a bomb-rigged toilet in Lethal Weapon 2?)

By: Bettejo Dux

Bettejo Dux — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:51:37 +0000

The answer is simple: control someone’s sex life and you’ve really got him or her by the ‘short hairs’. Please pardon the expression. It’s interesting, and very revealing, that it’s the women who catch the brunt of this and not the men. Well, god is a he, is he not? A patriarchal god and Eve ate that apple. What is iust too too really really annoying is that the religious right female loons…Palin and her pals…have ‘stolen’ Susan B. Anthony. Is there no end to the depth to which they will not stoop? Peace and love Bettejo

By: Givesgoodemail

Givesgoodemail — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:24:33 +0000

Bet she’s fun on a date. Not.

BTW, #11:
“religion really isn’t the major factor of influence”
Wrong. If religion reflects culture, riddle me this: why is the Christian ban on pre- or extra-marital sex universally extant among all Christian groups in all corners of the world?

By: GG

GG — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:20:44 +0000

Do you see an explanation for why people in the same cultures can view sexuality in drastically opposing ways–with the teachings of their belief system being the major difference between them?

By: CrazyCrazyXtian

CrazyCrazyXtian — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 19:41:30 +0000

My question to you is this: Where do you claim this prudity (I just made that word up but love it!) stems from? I argue that the issue is cultural, rather than based in religion. We can merely examine global norms on sexuality and see that religion really isn’t the major factor of influence. Rather, those cultural values are expressed in one’s religion.

By: GG

GG — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 19:40:17 +0000

Yes, astute point. Many people don’t let their kids watch much violence, but they themselves don’t mind blood and gore for a good time. Isn’t it interesting how one has become so hated over the other?

Then again, sex is a personal, intimate, “sacred” act kept private. Violence, while also personal, does not involve our vulnerability and sense of self in the same way. We can watch a war movie without feeling like we’ve stumbled into someone’s secret diary, but if we see a love scene between a newly married couple, we feel like voyeurs to something that should not be publicized or shared.