Comments on: My Mother Outed Me http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/ ... and her adventures in Atheism Fri, 10 Feb 2012 00:32:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Am I Lying? | Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2522 Am I Lying? | Godless Girl Fri, 09 Apr 2010 22:59:48 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2522 [...] left a thoughtful, interesting comment on my recent post about coming out to my family. I think it’s worth responding to at length, [...] [...] left a thoughtful, interesting comment on my recent post about coming out to my family. I think it’s worth responding to at length, [...]

]]> By: Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2520 Godless Girl Fri, 09 Apr 2010 19:58:24 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2520 Thank you for your feedback on this. I think I'll write a post in response! Thank you for your feedback on this. I think I’ll write a post in response!

]]> By: Andrew http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2517 Andrew Fri, 09 Apr 2010 15:07:41 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2517 I can understand your feelings of wanting to keep people in the dark, it is easier to do nothing. My own coming out as atheist prompted a lot of negative comments from my family, but now I am so free! And after a few years have been able to mend fences. I just want to say that by lying to your brother, you are sinning against yourself. What's more important, his feelings or your being able to live in an honest, open way without cognitive dissonance? Gonna be painful tho, I know how hurtful believers can be when they are saving the lost. I can understand your feelings of wanting to keep people in the dark, it is easier to do nothing. My own coming out as atheist prompted a lot of negative comments from my family, but now I am so free! And after a few years have been able to mend fences.

I just want to say that by lying to your brother, you are sinning against yourself. What’s more important, his feelings or your being able to live in an honest, open way without cognitive dissonance?

Gonna be painful tho, I know how hurtful believers can be when they are saving the lost.

]]> By: Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2476 Godless Girl Tue, 06 Apr 2010 04:14:04 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2476 I'm so sorry they said things that you wanted kept private. That is one reason I'm glad I spoke about it explicitly to my mother when I told her. But now that my sister and her husband know too, it's very near to the time when my most intimidating, outspoken, and strong-willed family member (my brother) knows and that's when I expect to be uncomfortable. I almost wish my relatives knew so I could get over any moments of telling them and saying "No, I'm not angry at God. No, I'm not being rebellious. Yes, I'm happy. No, this is not a 'phase'." I’m so sorry they said things that you wanted kept private. That is one reason I’m glad I spoke about it explicitly to my mother when I told her. But now that my sister and her husband know too, it’s very near to the time when my most intimidating, outspoken, and strong-willed family member (my brother) knows and that’s when I expect to be uncomfortable. I almost wish my relatives knew so I could get over any moments of telling them and saying “No, I’m not angry at God. No, I’m not being rebellious. Yes, I’m happy. No, this is not a ‘phase’.”

]]> By: Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2475 Godless Girl Tue, 06 Apr 2010 04:10:33 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2475 Thanks for coming and commenting, Lexia. Have you come to a place yet where you feel confident and happy as an atheist? Thanks for coming and commenting, Lexia. Have you come to a place yet where you feel confident and happy as an atheist?

]]> By: Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2474 Godless Girl Tue, 06 Apr 2010 04:09:35 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2474 There is a sense of taking a deep breath and saying "Ah, fuck it." It feels pretty good to just leave the rest up to chance and circumstance. There is a sense of taking a deep breath and saying “Ah, fuck it.” It feels pretty good to just leave the rest up to chance and circumstance.

]]> By: Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2473 Godless Girl Tue, 06 Apr 2010 04:08:59 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2473 Thanks so much, Guy. I hope I can retain the closeness I once had with my family in whatever form that occurs. It may look different, but then again we are different people now. Thanks so much, Guy. I hope I can retain the closeness I once had with my family in whatever form that occurs. It may look different, but then again we are different people now.

]]> By: Godless Girl http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2472 Godless Girl Tue, 06 Apr 2010 04:07:40 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2472 What sweet words. Who knows how it will turn out! What sweet words. Who knows how it will turn out!

]]> By: Mike Brownstein http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2455 Mike Brownstein Mon, 05 Apr 2010 00:35:03 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2455 This reminds me when I came out atheist to my family. Being from Judaism, news like this travels fast. My parents will sometimes tell people, because they think all I'm going to do is incite people (other Jewish individuals). They've told relatives that I didn't want to tell, and it's made things sometimes awkward with my family. .-= Mike Brownstein's last blog ..<a href="http://politicsandpucks.blogspot.com/2010/04/mel-brooks-takes-on-jesus.html" rel="nofollow">Mel Brooks Takes on Jesus</a> =-. This reminds me when I came out atheist to my family. Being from Judaism, news like this travels fast. My parents will sometimes tell people, because they think all I’m going to do is incite people (other Jewish individuals). They’ve told relatives that I didn’t want to tell, and it’s made things sometimes awkward with my family.
.-= Mike Brownstein’s last blog ..Mel Brooks Takes on Jesus =-.

]]> By: Lexia http://www.godlessgirl.com/2010/04/my-mother-outed-me/comment-page-1/#comment-2451 Lexia Sun, 04 Apr 2010 17:19:57 +0000 http://www.godlessgirl.com/?p=1905#comment-2451 Hi. Got this link from "snigsfoot" and found it interesting so thought I would reply. Although I do not know your background it seems as though you have been brought up in a very religious family and are being very brave and honest to stand up for your beliefs against your loved ones. I was brought up in a strong Methodist family, my father being a lay preacher. I rebelled many times over my childhood and teenage years, "sampling" other religions and eventually coming to the clonclusion that I am atheist (but a bit of a coward to admit it whole heartedly to myself) Best wishes to you in your search for honesty. I admire anyone who does that regardless of the cost. Lexia Hi. Got this link from “snigsfoot” and found it interesting so thought I would reply. Although I do not know your background it seems as though you have been brought up in a very religious family and are being very brave and honest to stand up for your beliefs against your loved ones. I was brought up in a strong Methodist family, my father being a lay preacher. I rebelled many times over my childhood and teenage years, “sampling” other religions and eventually coming to the clonclusion that I am atheist (but a bit of a coward to admit it whole heartedly to myself) Best wishes to you in your search for honesty. I admire anyone who does that regardless of the cost. Lexia

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