My Outiversary: One Year!

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Happy one year “outiversary” to me!

It was exactly one year ago that I came out godless to my mother. Declaring myself to her is the biggest step I’ve taken in my transition out of Christianity into atheism. It was scary! I can happily relate that she and I are slowly repairing the broken emotional divide between us, and I see a life of acceptance and respect ahead. At least, that’s what I dearly hope for every day. Love you, Mom!

I just wanted to spread heaps of love today and give out virtual hugs to all of you who have been with me through this long, complicated process. Revealing such a deep, personal  secret to one’s family is difficult, but I have all of you to thank for the courage you give me to be myself and be proud of it. It’s not over yet, but I’m on my way!

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22 Comments


  1. Congratulations! Even though it may have been scary, I know you are grateful that you are living a life of honesty, instead of living a “fake” life. I’m glad you and your mom are slowly learning to respect each other, even though you have different beliefs.

  2. Congratulations on your first anniversary!

  3. Congratulations to you! I hope that I will, one day, be able to celebrate the same thing!

  4. Congratulations. Now, you are ready for your first true atheist Christmas this year. For instructions, you can read the Boobquake Goddess’ “Atheist’s Guide to Christmas.”

  5. “Outiversary” – ha, that’s awesome. This post made me go to the calender to figure out mine… September 23, 2007. Outta christianity anyway, although I didn’t go cold turkey atheist;)I’m happy with my undefined spirituality for now…

    I’m new to this blog… I really like your posts and writing style:)
    Congrats!

  6. Congrats. My mother is the only person I haven’t come out to, because she’s old and will probably die soon anyway. I’m going to let her continue to believe we’ll see each other again some day. Everyone else knows, and my Facebook friends list has reduced drastically over the past few years. It has been worth it, though, and now I have a beautiful fiancee and a life I’m not afraid to guide in the direction I want to go anymore.

  7. Congrats! Glad to hear that you and your mom are slowly coming to good terms. I am thankful to be a part of a family that isn’t religious (agnostic and deist parents) so “coming out” was an easy thing for me. I hope someday that every atheist can experience the easy “outing” that I went through.

  8. whoops! i posted this on the other entry:

    “i FINALLY came out to my mother as an atheist about two weeks ago and i was astonished at how receptive she was. she didn’t act like it made me not as good of a person or ANYTHING. she also admitted that the only reason she had me baptized as a baby was to get my great grandmother to shut the hell up.”

  9. Congrats on your Outiversary!

    I happened on your blog today, a few days late to celebrate on the date. However, some celebrations should be ongoing.

    I’ll have to get my wife to tell me more of how she came to atheism, or see if she would share it with your readers here.

    In my own case, I was raised in the Episcopal church until I reached age eight or nine. I went to my mother one day and said that I didn’t see that going to church made me any better a person, and Mom never took me to church again. It seems that as a child of about that age herself, she had decided that the god her Catholic parents wanted her to believe in was no more real than the tooth fairy, based on her life experience to that date.

    I first remember using the term atheist as a self-descriptor when I was in eighth grade. I suppose I could have been saying so with the intent to rebel more than anything else, but I found myself sticking to my guns when the teacher challenged me on it. What surprised me was that she backed down a bit, to the point of saying that the bible was literature and thus worth reading. I read enough of it to see it as fables.

    That’s been more than thirty years ago. The “God Virus” still infects many of our contemporaries, but some of us somehow get well.

    • Glad you stumbled over here! And thank you for the good wishes.

      I have to say, I was not very rational as a kid. I usually went along with what I was taught and enjoyed it! I admire people who could see things in other ways at a young age.

  10. I’m glad I grew out of the whole atheism thing, hopefully you guys will too.

    Seriously, this is kinda sad.

  11. MM – Nice troll attempt 8-)

  12. I’m with MM. This is sad. And smug. And self-congradulatory. And solipsistic. I’ll say a prayer for you, AG.

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